For most people the aging process is a sad fact of life, and one over which we have bugger all control. Some people handle it pretty well, as they’ve had plenty of time to get used to the idea, while for others the changes that come with getting older are more difficult to cope with.
Unfortunately for those of you reading this, people who are regular swingers are some of the least prepared for the fact that getting older means a lot of changes in your swinging (sex) life.
In Australia, most people who try swinging begin between the ages of about 28 and 35. The lower end of this age range also equals the average age at which couples get married these days, so this means that most couples entering the scene either don’t yet have kids, or that the kids are fairly young. Aside from the hassle of having to find a babysitter, it’s pretty easy for couples in this position to get out for some adult fun, and even to sometimes invite other couples back to their place after the kids have gone to sleep. In a few short years though, things start changing. Unless you can get the kids out of the house, there’s no way you can invite other couples over for a bit of hanky panky, so it starts to be much more difficult to get together with other couples especially if they’ve got kids of their own.
One of the big things you have to watch as your children get older is that kids are pretty good at picking up on body language and other signals. I remember as a young boy seeing my father flirting with a neighbour and realising that he had more than a neighbourly interest in her. There’s not a lot of point in going out of your way to keep your straight friends and adult family members in the dark about your sex life, if you’re not careful around your own kids. This means making sure that magazines like Vixsin are kept hidden well away, and that you make sure you don’t leave an electronic trail on your computer showing that you’ve visited swingers websites. This involves much more than just deleting the ‘History’ file every time you log off. Your kids notice almost everything, and are likely to be vastly more computer literate than you, and talk about these things with their friends.
It doesn’t get any better when they get to their mid to late teens either. While teenage males tend to be walking, talking sex machines, teenage girls can be fairly self-righteous about sex, and will probably give Mum (especially) a hard time if they find out what you’re up to.
And finally, you’re going to get to the point where your kids are adults as well, and you’re terrified at the prospect of running into them at a party, or having them roll through your front door while you’re naked on the lounge-room floor with half a dozen other people, because they hadn’t told you they might come visiting.
The other age factor that becomes obvious to everyone in the scene is that with each five years you add to your age, there’s less people advertising to meet someone in your age bracket. Take a look at the ads in magazines or on websites and the advertisers will be seeking couples ‘from 18-35” or ‘under 40’ Forty is the age in swinging where your opportunities start to drop off, and they drop further after age 45, while fifty is a big cut-off age for a lot of couples.
I guess the moral of all this is that as you get older, there seem to be more and more impediments to enjoying the swinging lifestyle. On the bright side though, there’s a hell of a lot of current swinger’s getting older at exactly the same rate, so there should be plenty of horny (older) buggers for you to play with for some time yet, and that’s all I really care about.